Reiki, Energy Healing, and the Sex of it All

9/22/2013

Please note that this post is in the case that you are working with an experienced, knowledgeable and professional Holistic Energy Practioner or Reiki Master.

It isn't that rare to hear a story about an Energy healing or Reiki session gone weird. The practitioner works on the client, the session is awesome, they part ways feeling great, and later the practitioner gets a phone call or text from the client about the sexual connection felt. "It felt like sex," or "Did you feel what I felt?" or the lingering hug after the session that makes you raise an eyebrow.

When you work so closely in someone's energy field it should be expected that both people will feel something. A practitioner will feel the imbalances, blocks, sources of discomfort in the client's field while the client might just feel tingly and relaxed. We are so used to our physical senses that when we feel the sensation of divine energy mingling and merging, it becomes hard to interpret. Sex is about union, merging and even if you have never experienced it when you have been bumping and pumping, it doesn't mean it isn't happening on some level. Sometimes we can be so closed and self-absorbed that physical sex is only about release or stress-reduction. Conversely, when you get an energy healing session you are asked, expected to open up and receive as the practitioner is sending loving, healing energy into your field to promote well-being. So there you are, on that rare occasion, open to feeling what you have been missing. It's that feeling when love reintroduces itself to love, that can be misinterpreted as a lusty, burning fire of sexual desire. And because the only other person in the room is the practitioner, the client can easily feel like this is something that they are sharing together. They aren't.

My advice is to have a deeper understanding about sex and move away from the way it has been greatly perverted through media, religion, pornography, and the likes. You can gain this awareness by going within to learn about sex, through meditation, and by studying Tantra, Taoism, Song of Solomon (Bible), electricity, biology, physics, chemistry, the life of a tree, and sex magick to name a few. The next time you feel full of fire in a session or even after meditation, know that you are becoming conscious of divine energy flowing within, loving, purifying, and cleansing you. The practitioner is feeling that loving energy pouring into you and they may even sense your interpretation of it (I know I have), but they are not getting sexually aroused for your hot body or sparkling soul.

To summarize:

In a healing session, you do kind of have sex, but it isn't exactly with your practitioner; you feel a profound merging with divine/primordial energy.
Sex is about union and love revealing itself to love. Physical sex is just one way for this to happen.
Yes, the practitioner feels something, but understands the nature of energy...so they are not interested in physical sexy time with you.
Bring that tingling feeling in your loins up to your heart, spread it all around with healing intentions, and you will stop fantasizing about your practitioner...and probably will have a deep emotional release.

Much love and healing vibes to you all!

7 Comments

12/25/2014 10:51:08 am

Hi Kiki,

Thanks for writing this very interesting and informative post. I've had a reiki session done before by a male practitioner and while I didn't think he was was attracted to me, there were some things he mentioned during the session/meditation that did not necessarily make me uncomfortable, but that did leave me a little unsure of what to make of them. For example, he said that I would do well on my path to healing if I were to embrace more of my feminine energy (apparently to him, I have more masculine energy) and he said this included things like appearance, i.e. makeup, and being sensual and sexual. Now I suppose these things can help a woman get more in touch with her feminine side, however, given that the reiki practitioner asked me questions about my relationship status to which I gave answers indicating that I'm single, have never experienced anything physical with a man, and that I have somewhat conservative beliefs which means I'll most likely wait until a monogamous, long-term relationship, it just surprised me that he would advise those things as I don't know how that would be practical at this stage in my life. Please don't get me wrong, I'm no prude and I believe that sexuality within an appropriate context is natural and healthy, but I like said I was just kind of confused and taken aback by these statements of the practitioner. On another note, when he asked me about my relationship status and I replied that I hadn't been on a date in a few years, he then asked if that was something I was interested in-not with him, but as I'd never had a reiki session before, I just wasn't sure if this was a standard question to ask clients or if there was some other reason. And no, I don't think that other reason was due to interest in me (he's married ) but if not that, then what? So I just wondering if a reiki practitioner yourself, have you or any other practitioners that you know of, ask similar questions and give similar advice to clients? I'm just curious to know. Thanks and Happy Holidays!

12/25/2014 11:09:00 am

Sorry, hit submit to quick. Just wanted to do a minor edit on the last part for more clarity.

So I just wondering, do you, as a reiki practitioner (or any other practitioners that you know of) ask/provide similar types of questions/advice as I was asked/advised by the practitioner I saw?

Kiki

12/25/2014 09:54:53 pm

Hey You! All kinds of things come up when I am working with people in sessions, including their love life. It just depends on what I pick up. When two people get together in the context of healing, life issues will come up. There are no standard questions in that sense because everyone is dealing with something different. Sex is a natural, necessary, and beautiful part of life so of course it may come up from time to time. I make a conscious effort to talk about it in a context that works for my clients. It sounds like the practitioner you worked with didn't have the finesse to discuss the subject in a way that you felt safe and respected. It happens. As far as feminine energy goes... Check out my video called, "Feminine Energy: I'll open my legs to that!" on youtube as it may give you more info on femininity. Also study feminine energy for yourself because some people have an extremely limited understanding of what it is (i.e makeup, being sensual/sexy). It isn't in what you put on your face, what you wear, but it is in how you interact with life energetically. Are you open to receiving? Are you creating? Are you using your intuition? Are you nurturing your ideas? Are you comfortable with the unknown? Let me know if this clears things up for you.

1/29/2015 06:14:12 am

Hi Kiki,

Thank you so much for your reply and sorry about the later response! Thank you as well for telling me about your video. I checked it out and it was great!

To be honest I had mixed feelings about the practice and techniques of the practitioner I saw. Prior to the reiki session with him, I had attended a seminar that he gave at another venue. I thought the things he spoke about were really interesting and that a reiki session with him might give me the opportunity to learn even more. I had also heard great things about him from others and since I'd wanted to try alternative healing for a long time, it seemed like a good opportunity. The funny thing is, during his seminar, he didn't mention anything about femininity or gender roles, but for some reason, I got the sense that he had some biased and narrow views in these regards.

But despite some of my doubts, I went to the reiki session anyways. I don't regret it because even in spite of some of the things I saw as negative, it was an overall good learning experience and some of the things he brought up were quite relevant to my path of healing. However, as I mentioned before some of his techniques did leave me with some questions. For example, I've read that it's not necessary for a reiki practitioner to actually touch the client and that simply moving their hands about 2-3 inches above the body yields the same results. It's not that I had an issue with being touched, but he had really strong hands, and the reiki felt somewhat painful on my lower body. Prior to attending the session, I had heard that another client of his had a similar experience, however, she also claimed the treatment was very effective and had only positive things to say about him, so I kind of thought it was just standard practice.

To be fair, when I was laying on the table, he did ask if I was comfortable and when I told him that it hurt, he gently told me to take deep breaths. I've read that every part of the body (with the exception of chest and privates) is standard to perform reiki on. I wouldn't say he was inappropriate but one of the areas he did the reiki on was my lower back/upper posterior area. I was a bit surprised but didn't say anything because at the time, I assumed it was probably just a standard reiki practice. Aside from that, to be honest, at the time, his touch felt like an odd mix of nice and somewhat awkward? It's hard to explain. But in hindsight, I wish I had asked him about it. At the end of the session, he told me I was a "beautiful person and had a good heart" which also surprised me because I was just thinking, "ok, so you don't think I'm feminine, but apparently I'm a beautiful person?" In spite of my confusion, I still thanked him for the compliment. Lastly, he had told me not to mention anything about the session to anyone for at least 21 days. At the time, I didn't question this because I had assumed that talking about it within the first 21 days would somehow effect the healing process, otherwise, why would he tell me to not talk about it right? (like I said, it was my first reiki session) but when I thought about it later, I wondered if it was actually necessary to not say anything about it until after the 21 day mark. Have you ever utilized any of these techniques or made similar recommendations during a session? Or do you know of any other practitioners who do?

Thanks again!

Henry

12/30/2017 05:16:41 pm

You worry to much. Try someone else and see how you feel. Everyone reacts differently to energy work.

Tim

8/7/2017 06:25:31 pm

I like to encourage new clients to call "time out" if anything feels even slightly weird or uncomfortable, so we can re-assess how to best serve their needs. I think that a practitioner pushing a client to receive reiki in a certain way is unprofessional, and not in the client's best interests. Any body work must be sensitive to the client's comfort level, which trumps the practitioner's opinions on technique.

Janelle to Me

2/14/2018 02:13:29 am

I just want to say I can relate to the over -analyzing. Women are wired differently then men. We have been designed to pick up subtle energies and in a society that teaches us to use logical deduction, rational conclusion and to compartmentalize every detail it can be difficult to know what "trusting your intuition" or recognizing what "receiving divine assisstence" feels like. Often what we interpret is a reflection of what is going on within our own consciousness. I will say I find his comments about femininity regarding make up and being sensual so be a little over stepping. Kiki did a nice job in relating femininity to creating, receiving, honoring and expressing your feelings and ideas and being in tough with your creativity in some way. Anyway I can't expand on much more but good luck in finding the right partner and fit for your life, once in that arena there will be more facets of life to discover and experience.

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